Dating etiquette call back
In order to time your texts so that you convey your best self, you will need to be two things: genuine and realistic.Being genuine will prevent you from seeming uninterested or boring, while being realistic will prevent you from seeming desperate. If you get a text from a guy that you like, and you genuinely have a free moment to reply, don't play games by artificially prolonging your response.Keep in mind that by "break up" I mean any situation in which a man makes it clear that he is no longer interested in pursuing a sexual or romantic relationship with you: not calling after he gets your number, fading out after sex or a few dates, or explicitly ending a long term relationship.In any of these situations, cutting him off completely will accomplish five things: ----------------------------------------- If you liked this post, you'll definitely like my book, Beyond the Breakup, in which I add a 6th point that I overlooked when writing this post originally.You probably shouldn't have given him your number in the first place. If you are really excited about the guy who is texting you, or if you are just excited to be getting any attention from a guy, you need to resist your temptation to indulge in communicating with him (anticipating his texts, reading them, replying, and anticipating the next one).This excitement seems like a small thing; but when you are dropping everything immediately upon receiving a text notification, or constantly checking your phone just to make sure you didn't miss the latest message from him, you start to realize how much you are allowing a merely potential relationship to monopolize your priorities.(If he tells you up front that it will take this long for him to call, he’s interested) When you originally had the date has a lot to do with it.Work, heavy weekends, travelling for work, and other social commitments can distract a guy and eat into his week.
My advice: Judge the appropriate time to call based on the date.
If you've been reading this blog for any time now, you are familiar with the idea of cutting off a man after he breaks up with you.
I want to explain a little more systematically the reasons why this is important.
So when he texts, answer him naturally, genuinely, authentically.
If you find yourself thinking "I don't feel like replying right now," or "I'll get to it later," then don't reply at all, or tell him (tactfully) that you don't want to pursue a relationship.